If you’re the one they check on after the fact, the person who gets the update but not the invitation, or the partner expected to adjust without being asked, this conversation is for you.

This week on the pod, Stacey unpacks what it feels like to be an afterthought, how that pattern often mirrors the way we treat ourselves, and why clarity doesn’t always guarantee change. Whether you speak up or stay silent, the result can feel the same—and it’s exhausting.

You’ll hear why being overlooked isn’t always about other people missing the mark. Sometimes, it starts with the way we shrink, delay, or deprioritize our own needs.

Whether this shows up in romance, with family, friends, or at work, this is an invitation to center yourself with intention.

In this episode:
• What it feels like to be remembered last
• Why speaking up doesn’t always lead to being seen
• How familiar pain can feel easier than honest risk
• The role grief plays in self-loyalty
• What it looks like to shift from default to deliberate

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