How do they treat you when they’re upset?

In this episode, Stacey explores the nuance of conflict in relationships. Whether it’s weaponized silence, bringing up things shared in confidence, or claiming they “didn’t mean it” after saying something hurtful, how someone shows up during conflict speaks volumes.

You’ll learn the difference between healthy space and emotional punishment. And why the way someone handles disagreements can (and sometimes should) be a deal breaker.

If you’ve ever walked away from a disagreement feeling like small and unsure if love is supposed to gut you, this is for you. Stacey is serving up real-life reflections and clear standards for what respectful conflict can and should look like.

In this episode:

• 3 conflict red flags most people ignore
• The emotional toll of stonewalling and disappearing acts
• Why “I didn’t mean it” doesn’t undo the impact
• How to set boundaries before the next blow-up
• When conflict becomes cruelty—and how to respond

“There’s a difference between taking time to self-regulate and withholding connection as a form of punishment.” —Stacey Herrera

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